Q & A | MORE BABIES? WORK? WANT A GIRL? EMILY NORRIS

Q & A  |  MORE BABIES?  WORK?  WANT A GIRL?  EMILY NORRIS


– Hi, guys, welcome back to my channel. Today, I’m filming for you a Q&A video, and this has been highly requested, but I also realize I’ve been getting lots of the same kind of questions through messages now, so I put
something out on Instagram, and I’ve got 150 questions, but there were definitely some themes of what people wanted to know. So by far, the most popular question was to do with work, whether I’m going back
after maternity leave, what it is I actually do. So, I am on maternity right now from my part-time marketing job. So, I currently work three days a week as a marketing manager,
and with each child, I have had a whole year
of maternity leave, so I’ve been so, so lucky to do that. And then, I’ve always
gone back to my role, obviously part-time, so
it hasn’t been too bad. I’m due back to work in August, so I had quite a bit of
time to think about things, so I don’t have to decide just yet. But obviously, I’ve got my vlog now, and it’s really started to grow lately, so it is making me a little
bit of income on the side. So there is a question of,
obviously, a lot of you know that my dream would be to
do this vlog full-time. I think everyone knows that, I think even my work would
know that. (chuckles) But, obviously, I can’t
make any decisions yet. I’ll just have to assess things when it get nearer to August
and see what I’m gonna do. I have a really nice job, so it’s really hard for me to say that I want to give that up. And also, my husband is self-employed. He owns two businesses. So it’s always been really nice to have like a secure wage coming in each month because if he had a bad month, you know, all of that big grown-up stuff. So we would just see. So the answer is, I don’t actually know what I’m going to do, but my dream, of course,
would be to do this more because I love it. The next most popular
question that was asked was, if I would like more children one day. So obviously, again, I have three boys, it is chaos, it’s really, really busy, and Matt and I have always
said that we wanted three even before we had our first. We always agreed that three
would be a nice number. I don’t know why, it seems
like the natural limit for the average person, I guess, ’cause you can have the car and the house and still go on holidays and
get a suite and all of that. So, I think to have a fourth would really change things massively. So, we have said no, we will
not have any more children, but you guys know I
absolutely love babies. So, if it was up to me, I would
definitely have another one, I think, I don’t know. I feel done, but if money was
no option, I think that’s it. If money was no option,
and you could have help, and you could still give each boy the care and attention that they deserve, I would have another one, but then, I think I would
always have another one. I would be like the woman
from 19 and counting, and it would be like,
yeah, I have another one. But, in all honesty, as much
as it pains me to say it, this is our last baby, wah. Right, so that next question is, what are my top three beauty products, and that is easy for me. My go-to products are
Clarins Instant Concealer ’cause it makes me look awake, even when I’ve had zero sleep. Estee Lauder Double Wear Foundation, I’ve worn that for years. I know it’s a bit thick for some people, but if you’ve watched my labor video, you will see that never comes off. It is really, really good coverage, and it lasts the whole day long. And my third product, at the moment, is the Charlotte Tilbury Bronze & Glow, and that is what I use
to highlight and contour, and I really love it. So the next question is
one I do get a lot as well, and that is, how do I find the transition going from two babies to three babies. I will link a video down below because I did a whole
video on that transition and what I think was working for us. But so far, Jackson has
just completely settled into the family. He’s only six months, so that
may change in the future. But there was absolutely no jealousy, and I think that’s
because of the age gaps. There are three years,
nearly, between each boy. So by the time a new baby comes, they all understand what
exactly is happening. All right, so the next question is one I do seem to get a
lot as well, and that is, how do you seem so calm
and happy all the time, now, and not a mummy monster, she’s put. (chuckles) so I think I am quite a calm person, but I don’t actually feel it. I must be like a duck going along because I must look calm, but underneath the water, I’m like, oh my gosh, I’ve got so much to do, these kids are crazy, oh
my God, what am I gonna do? So I think maybe I go like inward for sure ’cause when I lose it, I am more likely to like lock myself in the bathroom for a minute and be like, oh my gosh, I just need to breathe rather than shout at the kids. I suppose I am quite a calm mum, but I think that has come with experience. I definitely was more
anxious with my first. But with each subsequent baby, I’ve chilled out more and more, and now things are just so out of control there’s not much I can do. (laughs) Another question I get all of the time, where is your accent from, and I’ve written it in the description, but a lot of people miss that because I have such a strange accent. I obviously live in Essex now, and I love living in Essex, and I moved here about 20 years ago. So I sound quite Essex,
but I was born and raised till I was 14 in Toronto in Canada. So I have a weird twang. All of my family live in Canada, they’ve all gone back there, but I ended up staying for love. Someone’s put, hi, Emily, any tips for breastfeeding mums, especially what to wear? I will link a video down below that I made on my breastfeeding tips. It’s been a really popular video, lots of good feedback on it. So definitely check it out ’cause I have breastfed
for what feel like forever. And a really good tip for what to wear, because I know it can be
quite scary at the beginning, there is excellent nursing clothes on ASOS, H&M, Next. But a really good trick is to wear two vest tops over each other so that one can come
down and one can come up. I had a few questions as well about postpartum weight
and weight loss as well and how it’s all going. So, with this said, pregnancy, I kind of went into town, and I just let myself eat
whatever I wanted to eat, and I didn’t weigh myself for a long time. But I think I put on
about four stone, nearly, which is nearly 50 pounds. So I put on a huge amount of weight. I instantly lost a stone
when I left the hospital ’cause, obviously, the baby
weighed nearly eight pounds. So, I instantly lost about
14 pounds from giving birth and water and all of that. Since then, I have lost
another two and a bit stone. So I literally have 10
pounds left to lose. He’s obviously six months old now, and I am giving myself
until he’s like nine months to lose this extra 10 pounds. But honestly, I haven’t really done much. I’ve obviously been breastfeeding, I’ve been drinking lots of water, and I have spurts, have
been really, really good, and then I’m really, really bad. I’m kind of all or nothing. And also, I can be dieting,
and it all going really well, and then I’ll have like one biscuit, and I’ll be like ah, well, ruined, and I just go to town. I have wine, pizza, it’s really bad. So what I think I need to do is just start getting more active and getting out with a buggy, which I’m really hoping that the spring and summer will help me with. I also have lots of questions about how do I always keep myself together, and how I always look put together. Now, I am a type of person that will always put on makeup
before I leave the house, and I like to make an effort just because it makes me
feel better in myself. I think all of us feel better when we’re looking our best, don’t we? But also, bear in mind
that this vlog is edited. I show you what I want you to see of me. I don’t show you when
I’m telling the kids off, I don’t show you when I’m
having a really hard day or shouting at the kids, because I wouldn’t want to watch that. Everyone has their good
days and their bad days. And while my vlog is very honest, and I leave a lot of stuff in, you know, no one’s life is perfect. Right, someone’s asked about skin care, so I will link my skin
care routine down below. I use a lot of elements and
dermatological products, and I really like them, so
definitely check that out. And the next question, someone asked, in what ways are your boys similar, and in what ways are they different? So obviously, I have three sons, and I think, at the moment, they are quite stereotypical
eldest, middle, youngest. My eldest, he is very
sensible, he is very academic, he is a little angel,
he’s such a good boy, he’s so caring, he’s so cuddly, he’s just a brilliant, brilliant boy. But he was a really hard
baby, he was my hardest baby, he didn’t really sleep. He still really doesn’t like to sleep. So it’s funny, he was a difficult baby, but a very easy boy now, whereas my middle, Caleb, you know, we call him crazy Caleb because he is nuts, like
he’s just off the wall. Sometimes, I just find
him doing crazy things, and he’s a little bit like naughty, he’s got a bit of a
mischievous streak in him. He was such an easy baby, though. He was such an easy baby,
but a very difficult toddler. And Jackson, he is so chilled
because he’s the third, I think he doesn’t really have a choice, he just lays around, he’s just so relaxed, and so chilled out. I mean that may change because Matt keeps reminding me that Caleb was like this as a baby. So this may well be the
calm before the storm. But, at the moment, it is like typical
eldest, middle, youngest. So they’re all very different, but they are so similar in their looks. Right, Jackson has just
woken up from his nap, he wanted to be on the video, didn’t you? He said, we’re live,
we’re happy. (chuckles) Yeah, so I’ll just do a few more questions ’cause I think this is
probably quite long by now. Someone asked what discipline techniques are used on the boys. Now, I would never film me
disciplining the children ’cause I don’t think that’s fair on them or anyone, really. But they are quite good boys. We definitely have a thinking step, so, it’s like a timeout. If you do something a few times, then you have sit on the step for as many minutes as your age. Fraser never needs it ever. Caleb’s been using it quite a lot lately, hasn’t he, yay, you’ve not had it yet. Someone’s asked, how
did I prepare the boys for a new baby, and the best
advice I can give on that is there are some great children’s books that talk about having a baby, what’s in mummy’s tummy,
and those kinds of things. So definitely have a search for those. Someone has asked how I split myself between the big boys,
and that is quite tricky. But I have a couple of
days with just Jackson, me and him, just the two of us. And then, I have three days
with Caleb and Jackson, so all those days, I
focus on little Caleb, go to little classes with him. And with Fraser, when
he’s off in holidays, but Caleb is at nursery, we have a date day, as we call them. So I’ll take him to the cinema. And even though, Jackson
comes in toll as well, we have our little dates. Yeah, and when I put the boys to bed, if it’s just me putting
all three to bed, it… (Jackson screams) It takes forever, but I will literally read some little books
to him, put him down; read some little books
to Caleb, put him down; and then go and do Fraser’s. It takes forever, but it’s really nice to have that one-one-one time each boy. I’ve also had lots of questions about how I keep a love life with Matt and how do we have dates so have a a bit of romance. I will link a video down below that I actually did on that subject. So definitely go and check it out if you want to know more about that. And finally, someone has
asked the dreaded question, do I wish I had a girl. So, no, I really don’t now. When I did my gender reveal with Jackson, I’ll link that as well, if you watch that, you will see a bit of disappointment in my face because I just hoped maybe for
a girl to balance things out because I’m so outnumbered! But now, look at this
face, look at this face. I would never wish he was
a girl now, never, ever. And actually having three of the same has made life so easy, and there
are so many benefits to it. And they are like my boys. I feel like it’s my thing,
I’m like a mama boys, and I am like badass. Anyway, we better go and play. Thank you so much for watching. I have so many more questions. If you want a part two to this, then just comment down below. Thank you so much for watching, and I’ll see you soon. Bye, we say bye-bye. Bye-bye! (chuckles) You cutie.

100 thoughts on “Q & A | MORE BABIES? WORK? WANT A GIRL? EMILY NORRIS

  1. Hi Emily! I love your videos. I'm a first time mum of a beautiful 2 month old boy. In your videos you have mentioned that Fraser and Caleb didn't sleep as well as what Jackson is sleeping, could you do a video on how you overcame this? Watching Jacksons updates, I wasn't able to relate as much to a baby who is sleeping so well so I would love to know your suggestions for getting babies/toddlers into good sleeping habits during the night and day… thank you :):) xx

  2. Hi Emily, I really like your vlog. You are such a nice personality. We live in France but my partner is from Kent (UK). We think of having a baby and I like your tips on all the baby essentials. Thank you and I hope you keep vlogging!

  3. Haha you made me laugh with the bad ass comment! How old are you/how old were you when you had Fraser?

  4. I think everyone can understand the life of a busy mom of 3. Your a great role model for real life mom. and having 3 boys I understand I wanted a girl but got a boy, and I love him. I love all my boys.

  5. Hi Emily, I have a question now that baby Jackson is weaning how do you do to keep your milk supply. Do you pump during the day? Love your channel ๐Ÿ˜Š

  6. Hi Emily, I've only just come across your vlog and watched one of your videos and I love you already haha. I love your honesty and advice. I'm a mum of two beautiful boys, one of almost 7 and a baby of 6 weeks. So even though I am experienced, it's still nice to have that reassurance. I'm going to look forward to watching your new posts and some of your past videos. You are just what I needed. Lisa xx

  7. I love watching your videos you are such a lovely beautiful lady, I also have 3 boys ( albeit a fair bit older than yours ) and when you said how you felt at the gender reveal was exactly how I felt, at the time I so wished for a little girl and actually cried a bit when I discovered it would be the third boy, but my goodness when he was born it was just right. I too wouldn't change my three boys for the world and whilst I'm a bit too old to be doing it again if I could have a 100% guarantee of a girl I still wouldn't have another, my three boys are the best as are yours x

  8. The way you describe your boys sounds EXACTLY like my three – caring eldest, crazy middle and chilled baby. I have three boys too and the same ages as yours. So nice to watch someone with such a similar family set up to us ๐Ÿ˜

  9. Your are my role model! I love your videos Emily, so real, so positive, it makes me so happy! I have a very active toddler boy and one more baby on the way. You gave away lots of great tips that I'll definitely use in the future! Thanks a lot!

  10. your just so nice. Can you tell me where your wallpaper behind you is from im looking for something like this we just got a new sofa so need to re wallpaper lol xx

  11. You seem such a lovely person! I love how real you are and how I can relate to you! I would love for you to do youtube full-time, you definitely deserve it ๐Ÿ™‚ xxx

  12. I don't think you should put your career on hold. Your kids will grow up one day and won't need you as much. just my opinion

  13. Wow you've got a lot of subscribers now. I began to watch your videos when I was pregnant last year and you had around 3000 subscribers. I'm happy for you that your channel is going well. Your videos helped me a lot. My little girl is now 4 months old! I love your accent and I live in Quebec, near Toronto!

  14. I love how your English accent is mixed with your Canadian accent, you sound so beautiful๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜™๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜™

  15. You definitely are a badass mum๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ˜™๐Ÿ˜Ž๐Ÿ˜™ (in a good way ofcourse)๐Ÿค—๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜‰

  16. can totally relate to you ! MOB here and yes oldest. middle and youngest the mannerisms are so similar to ur three โ˜บ

  17. 1)A year of maternity leave – is that unpaid? The US has terrible leave.
    2)Also I gained like 80 lbs with my first, probably the same with this one!
    3)I put my son to bed at night every night because of my husbands work, a bit worried about how to do it with 2!!

    Love you dear and of course we want a part 2! <3

  18. Love your videos Emily, you are so organised and an inspiration to all the mums out there!!Random question- are the potted plants in your garden real? If not, where did you get them from? Loved your cleaning routine videos, fab tips and tricks xx

  19. Just discovered your channel. You definitely deserve a wide audience and your wish of 'full time vlogging' coming true. Good luck with everything. And, yes please, more Q and A ๐Ÿ™‚

  20. I hear you about boys. Last week we found out that baby #2 is a girl I literally cried because I wanted another boy I wanted to be boys' mum I really enjoy my son so I just thought another boy will be perfect. I'm still happy as long as the baby is healthy but yeah I really wanted my boy *shrug*. Lovely video as always. Jaxon is just too gorgeous ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜

  21. I'm about to have my second baby boy and I'm so nervous! I hope I'm a badass boy mom like you! You're such an inspiration. ๐Ÿ’™

  22. Emily, you are such a model mom and I just adore your positivity. Your family is blessed to have you! I never comment on Youtube videos but I just had to let you know how much I enjoy yours. I always find myself smiling while watching your content. Thank you x

  23. Ohh Jackson is sooooooo adorable , his got the most lovely smile and his eyes is so big and blue. I have a 15 months boy and he watches him and he love him.

  24. I've not long ago found out I'm pregnant with my first after trying for a long time and I watched your videos all the time. I love all your tips and info ๐Ÿ’— x

  25. I've only just realised how near to 50,000 subs you are! I started watching you when you had around 2,000 subscribers. Really enjoy Q+As – feel like it's a nice way of getting to know you x

  26. I am not a mom yet, but you and your family are amazing. You are very real about things, and it's like I can feel your kindness through the screen! Definitely goals. Much love from the US!

  27. aww u made me emotional and had tears coming when u said u didnt wish u had a girl because of that cute face baby of yours…i can tell it came from ur heart it was beautiful!

  28. OMG !!!! Jackson is such an angel i just can't stop looking at him he is blessed and adorable and you're such a great mom and i love your honesty , what a beautiful family โ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅโ™ฅ

  29. hi…..ive only just started watching your videos and already love them. my baby boy is due in august eeek cant wait to have a boy!!!! lots of great advise in your videos and i love the way your always happy ๐Ÿ™‚ xx alice xx

  30. Wow thats awesome that you have a 1 year maternity leave! Loved watching this and getting to know more about you ๐Ÿ™‚

  31. Your videos have helped me so much! I'm roughly 5 weeks pregnant ๐Ÿคฐ with my first so I'm trying to get as much information as I can to make me feel more prepared for what's to come ๐Ÿ˜… thanks for all the tips and tricks I can't wait to use them myself ๐Ÿ’•

  32. Love your work Emily. I work three days a week too, helping mum's with breastfeeding. But I was recently made homeless and my husband left me, so life is currently very difficult. Would love to leave my job to support my suffering children, but can't at the moment ๐Ÿ˜ญ hope you reach your dreams. X

  33. I loved finding out a bit more about you Emily! Loved baby Jackson squeals at the end! ๐Ÿ˜

  34. Hi Emily! I'd say go for whatever is best stability wise, I think YouTube can be very unsteady and it won't be around forever, it would be nice to have a steady income. Just my opinion:)

  35. My sisters children are the same. James her eldest was a tough baby but a very caring boy. Her middle was an okay baby but a tough toddler. Not always as thoughtful of others and her youngest daughter is so chill and easy.

  36. I've always wanted 4. I have 3 boys and pregnant and hoped baby #4 was going to be a girl so I could have that experience of a little girl, but…. baby #4 is a BOY. So I understand the initial disappointment. Do I love my boys? 110% and wouldn't want to trade any of them for a girl and I ultimately love this baby for who they are not what gender they are, but to know that the idea of my little girl will never be fulfilled is a bit sad. However, I know the feeling of being an all boys mom. Being the only woman in the house and how much sweetness and love little boys have towards their mamas. It's truly amazing ๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™๐Ÿ’™

  37. Hi Emily loved this. That was always a question that I wondered…. how your family ended up back in Canada. I guessed your 3 favourite beauty favs ha. I'm a super fan ๐Ÿ˜‚ I promise I'm not stalking you ๐Ÿ˜‚ well maybe I do channel stalk haha xx

  38. I am 18 years old, don't have any kids, no plans on having children soon, but I'm obsessed with your videos and how you have such a cute little family. You are a super mum! ๐Ÿ™‚ wishing you the best

  39. Fine I'll subscribe!!! I've been watching on and off forever and being stubborn about subscribing. But you've won me over โ˜บ๏ธ๐Ÿ˜‚

  40. Emily,
    Best of luck with your plan for making this your job!! I only discovered your channel recently (I'm echoing a bunch of people here) and I love it really much; your advice is great, your attitude is very positive, it is just a joy and a huge pick-me-up to watch your videos! I wanted to say – if there is any way you can think of that could help you get your official vlogging/advice/etc career launched, don't hesitate to share it with your followers – I for one would be happy to assist in any way I could, whether it be supporting a kickstarter or spreading the word or whatever, and I am sure many people feel the same way. Your videos really are fab, one can see they've been put together by a pro. Keep up the great work!
    Ta from France ๐Ÿ™‚

  41. I am so happy I found your channel. Its really helpful. You are doing a very good work. Thank you. Keep going

  42. Hey Emily do any of your kids still wake up in the middle of the night . And if yes how can u stop them from waking up ?

  43. For eating well. I look at it with an 80/20% rule. 80% of the food I eat is healthy. 20% is not healthy. So I don't feel guilty when I eat cookies for a snack. Because I ate well during the day. Well rounded is how I look at it. And so I don't stress about it.

  44. you should have a girl like you to bound and dress up and the boys to play with and bound with and you should adopt oversea

  45. Emily, I think you would be great with a girl!! Even though you said you just want to have three kids…you'll never know! maybe you will change your mind in the future…how beautiful it would be to have three boys and a girl…a little Emily would be so precious! ๐Ÿ™‚ Best wishes!

  46. Recently found your channel and absolutely love watching your videos.
    We're having our first baby, a girl next Feb and I'm so new in parenthood. But I'm relieved that now I've got your videos! So helpful!
    Please keep up your lovely work, Emily! Thank you for sharing it with us.
    – Chloe from Australia

    (btw, Jackson is sooooo adorable. Couldn't stop smiling while watching him in this vid.)

  47. You're so great! I wish you do this job fully, you are very inspirative and I'm sure that seeing your positive energy and how great you do all the work is very big help for many people. I'm every time very motivated after seeing your videos โ™ฅ

  48. hi emily im from kuwait and i love ur videos keep up ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜๐Ÿ˜˜

  49. I read question about your accent. I really love your accent, because Iโ€™m not native English speaker, so for me itโ€™s really good to understand , instead of British English. Thank you so much for videos. You always inspire me! You make my day!!!

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