Potty Training with Cherry Healey and Clemmie Hooper (midwife and author, “How to Grow A Baby”)

Potty Training with Cherry Healey and Clemmie Hooper (midwife and author, “How to Grow A Baby”)


Hi, I’m Clemmie Hooper! And I am Cherry Healey. So, I think the big thing is always when,
when do you potty train? So, dry nappies, weirdly. Which I didn’t even realise, so it’s when
they are holding their wee in. Okay, so there is more control. Yes, and they have the sensation, when they
need to do a poo and then communicating and telling you, “Mummy, Poo Poo, I need a poo
poo.” Actually, I found that I could help them a
bit with that, by noticing when they are doing a poo and saying “Are you doing a poo?” “Are you having a wee?” And help that along. Okay! What else? Um, the other one is, taking the nappy off. My daughters did a lot of that, in the morning
or after a nap. Oh, Nappy off! Trying to take it off, quite interestingly
the big girl pant thing. My second daughter, Marnie, was really interested
because her big sister was using the toilet and, let’s face it, she just wanted to be
like her big sister. Yes. It’s so sweet. So, those are the signs, so once your child
is displaying those signs what do you do next? So, what we tend to do, is we then bought
big girl pants and let our daughters then choose ones. Such a big day! I know! And just let them choose whatever, whatever,
even if its the one that you really don’t like. With princesses on, just let them pick it. Do you think wearing pants with little characters
on them, and little pictures, do you think that gives them more of a sense of “I’m a
big girl/boy now!” Especially if you’ve got together and let
them choose them. Its so important, it gives them that sense
of “I’m a grown up girl or big girl” and they have chosen them, that is so exciting. Putting those on every day. And a bit more connected as well, to what’s
going on. Absolutely. And those new sensations. Yep. It does take different times for different
children. Oh god yes! So never compare. Never compare! Or twins. One of the things I did with my two, was to
block out a period of time. Because there is no emergency to do it. Exactly, so I made sure that I had two or
three days at home and we would just go locally to the park, or shops, which meant that if
there were any accidents it wasn’t that bad. We avoided long car journeys, but I think
if you do have to go somewhere and you do have to get in the car, just be really prepared. Spare pants, spare trousers, wet wipes, the
whole shebang! Yeah, we did the whole summer actually, with
both of the girls. And let them wear dresses and skirts, so it
was just easier for them to just sit on the potty and pull their little pants down. Yeah! Absolutely. Do you think that if they have an accident,
be calm, be relaxed because I think often, the child is embarrassed and uncomfortable
as well. And if you freaked out, it’s such a new experience. Imagine if you did a poo in your pants, and
you’re two, its quite a big deal isn’t it? I always think, with nappies, we just wipe
them and they don’t see the poo, do they? You just wrap up the nappy and put it in the
bin. But suddenly you have got to look at it and
talk about it. And it’s really normal. It’s a really big moment, I think, for kids. So being really relaxed and positive about
it. With my two, books really helped. Did they? So, we had one called ‘Lulu’s Loo’ which took
you step by step through coming out of your nappies into big boy or girl pants. Which was really good. That’s really nice, and did that, and there
is some books that you can talk about the body parts as well. So actually understanding where the poo and
wee is coming out from. And definitely, day nappies off first with
both of mine they stayed in night nappies for a bit. For quite a long time actually. You can get those pull ups for nights can’t
you? Yes! So they are more like a pant, so they don’t
feel like they are reverting back to wearing a nappy. Because that must be quite confusing, if you
have gone dry all day and then suddenly to put them in a nappy at night. So there are some really good pull ups that
feel more like a pant than a nappy. That you could use, and again, I think you
know when it’s time to get rid of the night nappies. When they wake up and they are dry, That one
is actually easier, it’s pretty straight forward. Rather than the day, yeah. Brilliant. How do you feel about trainer/nappy pants? They’re not quite a nappy but not quite a
pant. They’re in between. We never actually used them, because I found
it prolonged the process. So, I think if you just go ‘right, nappy off
time, we’re going to wear normal big girl pants’ then they might not hold on to that
feeling that they are still in a nappy. I suppose, also, if they are wearing regular
cotton pants then they can feel the sensation if they do need to do a wee. Exactly! It’s not very nice, exactly. I think also, if your child is going to a
carer or a grand parent you’ve got to make sure everyone knows the system. A hundred percent, if they are going to nursery
they often take spare clothes, so make sure their key worker knows. Granny, your childminder, in fact it was our
daughter’s nursery key worker that told us that they were showing signs of that they
were ready, so it was brilliant. So I actually felt quite empowered by that
and I was like, Yay! We can do it together! It is a team sport. It is a team sport! It really is. And it’s quite a delicate couple of weeks,
it’s a big change for the child so it’s good if everyone singing from the same song sheet. So, final potty training tip. You still need your baby bag, you know, that
gorgeous baby bag you brought when you were pregnant? You need it, you still need it. Because you are going to need: spare clothes,
spares pants, also a couple of pulls ups and baby wipes. You’ll still be using those. So don’t put the nappy bag away? No. I also think lots and lots of praise, definitely!
lots and lots of praise and then I think you’re home and dry! Ba-boom!

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