Today we will be talking about ADHD, pregnancy, miscarriages and when to wean your baby . Welcome to the #AskDrMom Show episode 9. We are filming early this week so if you left a question under episode 8 and we haven’t addressed it please feel free to go ahead and put it under this episod,e it may have posted after we started filming this one so don’t hesitate to put it up again. Hans what do we have for question number one? Crystal, I’m so sorry you’re going through this and having such a difficult time. Anyone who knows me knows that this subject is very near and dear to my heart this is something that I have dealt with my entire life and I have several children who have faced these challenges and I commend you for starting with the fish oil. The omegas are extremely important to brain development and one of the things that you need to keep in mind is that scientists say our brain is not fully mature until the age of 25, so there are still a lot of things that you can do to help with your son’s development. One of the very first things that I would take a look at is diet. We build life with life, so the first question I would ask myself is how many live fresh fruits and vegetables is my son getting every day as opposed to fast or processed foods? The next concern that I would look at very closely is how many dyes and processed sugars is he coming in contact with? This book “Disconnected Kids” was written by Dr. Robert Melillo. In this book he addresses ADHD and multiple other challenges that a lot of children are facing today and I want to read just a short little piece out of it today to share with you some of his thoughts on the causes of this problem he says “Walk around any neighborhood in the late afternoon and chances are you’ll see a lot of things, trees, cars, houses, sidewalks. What you won’t see however are many kids outside playing. Where you’ll find them though is inside watching television, playing computer games, or lazing in a chair text messaging their friends. This is about the worst thing they could be doing for their growing brains. The questions that I always get when I’m talking to educators and parents are why? Why did this happen to my child? Answering these questions isn’t always that easy, not because I don’t have an explanation, I do, but because so many people are confused and misinformed about the nature of neurological childhood disorders. This is quite unfortunate because it only adds to the anxiety and despair of those trying to deal with these conditions at home and at school.” Now later on in this chapter after a little bit more explanation he actually lists what he sees as the causes of so many children dealing with these disorders and his list is: Lack of physical exercise, overweight and obesity, absentee parenting, television and computer games, stressful pregnancies and births, stressful lifestyles, environmental toxins and inadequate nutrition. So going off of what Dr. Melillo is saying along with my own personal experience, the very first thing I would look at is diet. The second thing I would look at is exercise. How much physical exercise is my child actually getting? The third thing that I would try to do is to channel all of this energy into something positive and I think this would be extremely important in your son’s case because if his self-esteem is already taking a hard hit like this, it really helps if they can be involved in something that they’re good at and where they can build their self-confidence. Along with that i would probably supplement with something like the Kid’s Life Focus, which is an herbal supplement. I would continue with the fish oil or a good flax oil, so that all of those and omegas are in place. Once you look at just a few of these simple things, diet exercise, supplementation, I think you’ll start seeing major changes and once the foundation’s in place, then you can begin to fine-tune it even more so that your son can be successful and have a strong self-esteem as he goes into adulthood. Okay Hans, what do we have question number two? Melissa, I’m so sorry for your loss, having suffered several miscarriages myself, I know how devastating this can be. Unfortunately since I don’t know your age or the circumstances that were surrounding those miscarriages I’m not quite sure what advice to offer so let me share what I used to recommend for my ladies when I had my midwife practice and then maybe you can look at this list compare it to what you’re doing and hopefully find some help. When i had my midwife practice, i had several lists that I would give my moms. One of them was for their diet. I asked all of my moms to make at least fifty percent of their diet live, meaning fresh fruits and vegetables. We build life with life and when you’re pregnant you are definitely in construction mode and building a new human body so I wanted to make sure that they were getting plenty of fresh live fruits and vegetables, nuts, seeds, sprouts, those types of things in their diet. Along with the diet I wanted to make sure that they were getting plenty of fresh water to drink so I would ask them to get at least two quarts of fresh water every day. Now as far as supplements go I wanted them to be on a natural prenatal supplement so something like the Mama Bear Prenatals. Along with that I would ask them to take two capsules of wheat germ oil morning and night up until the last six weeks of their pregnancy and then I would have them drop to one capsule morning and night. The reason for that is as I was tweaking my lists and experimenting a little bit, I found that if they stayed with two capsules of wheat germ oil twice a day up until their delivery we ended up building such a healthy placenta that quite often it would not be ready to stop doing what it was doing and I more than once had to wait up to 3 hours for the placenta to release. I found that if we reduce the wheat germ oil in the last six weeks then when the babies were born the placenta was ready to let go and we didn’t have that delay. I also asked my moms to take one tablespoon of liquid chlorophyll morning and evening. This was to help build strong blood and to help them to not become anemic. Along with that i asked them to drink one quart of red raspberry leaf tea a day. I would quite often suggest that they make the tea in the morning put it in the fridge and then they could enjoy ice tea throughout the day. I used to ask them to also add in a trace mineral supplement because I found that it was so beneficial for varicose veins however we have now included the trace minerals into the Mama Bear Prenatals, so if they are using those they would not need to add additional trace minerals. Along with diet and supplements, there was also an exercise program I wanted them to do 25 pelvic rocks every day. I asked them to get in the habit of doing Kegel exercises throughout the day. And thirdly I wanted them to get out and walk one mile every day. There were multiple reasons for that. One is for the exercise, the other was to get out into the fresh air and breathe deeply. And thirdly I wanted them to have quiet time every day where they could release their stress and talk to this baby, to let this baby know how much it’s loved, how much its wanted, and how anxious they are to have their child here with them. so I hope in going over this list it might help with your question. Okay Hans, what do we have for question 3? Edie, in my experience every baby is different. So having had as many as I did. It was never exactly the same. With each one of them typically by the time they’re six months old they’re usually trying to reach for whatever i’m eating and they may not be sleeping as many hours at night as they were previously. These are all kind of signs that tell you they’re ready for something a little more solid and so what I have always suggested was start with fruit. So I would usually use whatever I had fresh at home. So if I had ripe bananas I would just mash them up and start with something like that. The reason I started with fruit is because it is the easiest food to digest and since their system isn’t used to anything solid, I started with what would be easiest for them. As far as the time to wean goes. Dr. Christopher used to teach that when the stomach teeth and the eye teeth come in, those are the pointed fang teeth, when those teeth come in, which is usually around 18 months, that’s an indication that they are now ready to digest their own food and they’re ready to be weaned and go on solids. Now I understand that for a lot of women it’s extremely difficult to keep enough milk flowing to nurse all the way to 18 months, for some women they are able to handle it and actually will nurse up to two years or beyond which is absolutely fantastic, If you are one of those women who are having a difficult time keeping your milk in for a year and a half then my strong suggestion would be try to go for a year if you can make it for a year you have given your child an incredible foundation to launch off of. Six months, the first six months is the most important time and any time up to six months I would consider crucial. If you are able to give them anything at all. So I hope that helps. Again it really depends on every child because every child’s a little bit different but in my opinion the longer you can nurse up to two years the better. And usually around six months is a good time to start giving them a few solids that they can easily digest and take care of. This has been the Ask Dr. Mom Show and I’m Sandra Ellis Thank you for joining us.